For centuries spiritual leaders and mystics have stated that "Forgiveness in life begins with the acceptance of self."  Unless we can remove the inflexible, unhearing mask of our persona, there is little chance of true relation with self or others.  

Alice Walker, in one of her poems, says,

Looking down into my father’s
dead face
for the last time
my mother said without
tears, without smiles
but with civility
”Goodnight, Willie Lee, I’ll see you
in the morning.”
And it was then I knew that the healing
of all our wounds
is forgiveness
that permits a promise
of our return
at the end.
— Alice Walker
When we care a bit less about our curated self-image, we make way for genuine interaction - and emotional reciprocity.
— Jena Pincott, Psychology Today